At about 4:30pm Central Time on June 6th we drove into McKinney, Texas; well I drove into McKinney.
I had the puppy, and my husband went directly to the AirBNB ranch, in Copper Canyon, Texas, where we would be staying for three weeks until the previous owners moved from our newly purchased home.
Matt went to check in, meet Pam the owner, and drop off a couple of things.
After 2 days of driving, and one full hour of Oklahoma rainstorms where we met for lunch at two separate Chick Filas, we had made it to our new-to-us home in time for our final walk through prior to signing the papers to purchase it.
Prior to leaving Noblesville, Indiana, we took some pics.
Luckily, Matt came through as photographer-suggester, and suggested we take a selfie at our home in Noblesville before we left. I agreed with that suggestion, and took several pics through the home, including our view of the beautiful grass we grow so easily in Indiana.
Our Noblesville home had been cleaned, all of our belongings that survived the purge had been loaded onto a truck, and we had put the final remaining items into our 2 vehicles so that we’d have clothes, some bag chairs, and some food/hygiene items for the coming weeks.
Our new-to-us house was as perfect to us as we remembered. We saw the home in early May for 15-30 minutes, the day we made the offer to purchase the home.
After many, many homes searched, it was the second to last one we looked at prior to driving back to Indiana.
On the final walk through, we walked around, and I took pics of the home with the previous owners’ belongings in it. I enjoy their decorating style, and wanted to be able to replicate a couple of things once they had their things out of it.
It was a great relief to see our new-to-us home, and then to close without incident on it on 6/7.
Even better, the ranch our realtor had connected us with in Copper Canyon, Texas, is an Air BNB that is lovely.
We became Texas landowners on 6/7/2019, and settled in to enjoy our stay in Copper Canyon and to begin preparing to move into our home at the end of the month.
My childhood friends, Cara and her twin sister Sara, live in the area to which we are moving.
I have been communicating with them about re-connecting, particularly asking for help with finding a hair dresser, help with mental health office space, etc., and help finding medical/chiropractic care.
They definitely came through for me. Cara and Sara have been advising me from Texas through many of our decisions, and had told me in 2016 that they could work to connect me with people they knew. They both were true to their word and I really appreciate it.
I am excited to say that on June 18th, which also happens to be our 25th wedding anniversary, I signed on the dotted line and began renting space at the Pain Free Acupuncture Clinic in McKinney (Craig Ranch) Texas. I am writing this blog from the desk that I share with Gail, the clinical manager.
We wrap up our stay at Sparrow Ranch later this week, our boys come over the weekend, and the furniture truck arrives late next week.
When I think about all of the anticipation and the change we have had, I think about new beginnings.
I think about my opportunity to work alongside those who help with physical pain, as I work to help from the mental health side of both emotional and physical pain. I am excited for new and old friends, new opportunities, and new beginnings.
I think about heartfelt ‘see you soons’. I think about the friendships I have in Indiana and beyond, which I will continue to have. I think about relationships I have through the work I have participated in, and I think about my close relationships with family members. I am excited to be able to continue to travel home and to accept guests into my home to continue those relationships.
I think about so many new opportunities
Now I’d like for you to think about changes you are considering in your own life.
Think about things you like just the way they are. Think about things/people that cause you a bit of discomfort. People you may wish to reconnect with, and those you wish for a little more separation from.
As you think about changes you would like to make, or changes you have made, think about things you love, things that make you unsettled, and your plan for change
Think about ‘how can I improve what I have and love, and what can I do to make things better and sometimes harder’, at least in the short term. Think about how you can make decisions, like starting over in a new state, opening a business, drawing a picture of what you envision, or even reaching out to an old friend.
Now…think of something you can do this week, or at least in the short term.
Can you commit to it? I know I can. These changes are here, I’m excited about them, and every day is kind of like wearing a new outfit, which is something I like to do.
Change isn’t easy….but it sure is exciting! Good luck with your commitment to change, and I’m so glad you were able to think about things you love and wish to alter in your own life.
One of my strengths in this area is that I trust people when they tell me something.
One story, where this strength helped, was during an activity during one of my first courses in graduate school.
We were put into groups, and we were given a problem. We were encouraged to figure out what was wrong, come up with steps to solve it, and try to figure out the origin of the issue.
The story was about a boy who wasn’t listening. His parents would tell him what to do, he didn’t listen.
His teachers would tell him what to do, he still did not listen.
There was a teacher meeting together with the parents to talk about what were the supports in his life that were missing that would help him become more able to listen.
As we were brainstorming, which is a very specific task where all ideas are good, no feedback is given about the ideas, and everyone keeps coming up with ideas for a certain amount of time, I made a suggestion.
‘What if he can’t hear?
What if it isn’t that he isn’t listening, but that he cannot hear what is being said’.
In this instance, that was what was happening,
A child could not hear, and therefore was not listening.
I have talked previously about my trip to France in 1990.
We went to France and Switzerland, and were located for about 2 weeks at a camp near enough to visit Lyon, France; walk into Switzerland and get some chocolate; and to visit the Peugeot Plant.
We were there to get to know each other as people, and were all careful to state to each other that we did not represent each other’s countries.
At the time, Europe was not known as Europe as much as it was known as individual countries.
In France you paid with Francs, and in Switzerland it depended on what part of the country you were in to determine both the primary language spoken and the currency utilized.
My friend from Denmark ‘squished her food’. As we watched her, she was quick to say that smooshing all of her food together is typical in Denmark. She had a very specific reason for doing it, but I do not remember what they were.
My friend from Bath in England did not like carbonation in her coke. She was quick to say that this was not a Bath issue, and this did not represent England, but she did not like carbonation and she suggested that we all try it.
I have to admit, a flat Coke does have merit.
Two boys from France 🇫🇷 and one of the leaders (Gregoire), who was also from France, were the hardest for my sister and me to understand.
At that time, some people in France were resistant to learning English.
As our friends pointed out, they still spoke English better than we spoke French (my sister and me), but they had an accent that was hard for us to understand.
Those two weeks of learning to communicate, learning about each other, and experiencing the local culture, had a very strong affect on me and my approach to learning about and interacting with others.
If my go-to is to believe someone, then all of the problem solving we do, based on the facts as they are presented, are not me trying to prove that the person who told me the misrepresentation of truth is lying.
My feeling is, we all have different interpretations of the truth, so if your truth is that you were hurt, then lets go with that and work to help you feel less pain.
As people in your life tell you things that you know are not factually true (I call them bad reporters, or say they have ‘bad facts’), think about the payoff.
What is it about telling this misrepresentations of the truth, or facts, that is helping them gain something?
How are we promoting this by giving a response or feedback?
What can each of us do to help know the difference between ‘this is not your business’, which happens on occasion, and ‘I am misleading you in some intentional way’, which also happens with a good amount of frequency.
If your strength is pointing out misrepresentations of facts, what population does that work for helping with ?
I am best with teens/pre-teens. They tell me something that is not accurate and my response is ‘huh-that seems hard to believe’.
I do not disbelieve them, but I do point out the reasons that make their statement hard to believe.
I am second best with building people up who have not treated themselves with the respect that I would like them to.
How do you think about groups of people , whether that be people who speak a different language than you do, people who are developmentally an adolescent, or whether they are people who have lived for many years, who you connect with?
How can you use those connections to help their connections?