Got a messy desk? Me too! What I Love About Clutter, and What I Dislike About the Phrase ‘Mental Health Problems’


I am a huge fan of convenience.

I eat out too much because I want to eat as soon as I feel hungry.

We have electronic cords spread all over our house. If any of us want to charge something, we want to be able to use it while it is charging.

We have our couch where I can pull the cord through, and watch TV at a lower volume since it is farther away from me than the other people who might be in the room. This includes the dude that sleeps on the other side of the bed from me.

He likes the TV a little bit louder, and I like it a to play a little more quietly (just to clarify, this is TV volume here, not a love of human voices)


Truth: All of those things used to be true.  We moved our couch to the other side of the room for ‘flow’.

Here’s the Con: Now I can’t reach the cord if something needs charged.  I used to be farther from the tv because I like it quieter and I like to lay on the couch as I watch TV. Now, the laying down part of the couch is where the TV is too loud for me, while being too quiet for the other people in the room (husband and sons included here). 🙂

Side note: I just had to pause, find the cord for this computer I am using, (since I had put it away) untangle the cord, and move to sitting on the floor due to the outlet not being close to the couch.

Ok, back on track.

Since we are selling our house, we ‘get’ to put everything away and live clutter free.  Just a few things that are a pain about that.

  • Pro: Nothing is on our counter. It looks so clean and pretty.
    • Con: Every morning, I ‘get’ to get my hair dryer out, plug it in, re-wrap the cord, and put it away. My previous habit was leaving it plugged in, resting on the floor so it is ready to go, and just turning it on and drying my hair so I look presentable enough.
  • Pro: Our medicine and vitamins are put away and the counter looks ‘so nice and clean’.
    • Con: I ‘get’ to hunt for the vitamins and medicine I take every morning instead of leaving them on the counter where I can take one, move it to the side, then move to the next one, and then put them back as if we have a pharmacy section to our house.
  • Pro: I have completely cleaned off tables and counters at all time, except when I am actively cooking or eating. Looks great. Bed is made to look ‘so pretty and nice’.
    • Con: I ‘get’ to immediately wipe crumbs off the table after I eat, and I have to make that silly bed in case someone wants to see it.

I think you get the idea.  I’m not a tidy person, but I try.  Sometimes I need a little help in prioritizing clean surfaces  I am not a fan of clutter that isn’t useful.

Seriously though, this is ridiculous.  I feel like I’m living in someone else’s home because my creature comforts, including the honey sititing by the coffee maker that I like to put in my tea, the million pictures of my kids and places we’ve been that were put on various walls, are now in a closet ready to move to their new home, and we’ve painted the walls ‘neutral’ in the majority of our rooms. I am trying to play along, but it really isn’t my strength.

Anyway, that’s not the real issue I’m having of course.  Those are just minor annoyances while I plot to figure out how to sell this house to the person who wants it for the price they can pay.

Next topic: Mental Health Problems.  My current focus for this negative energy I’ve got going on 

What is my irritation really about this morning?

I woke up to the TV personality talking about what percentage of people have mental health problems, and how the number is so much higher than we think.

So my immediate, knee jerk response is ‘really?? a lot of people have too many emotions and get angry??

I propose everyone stop saying mental health problems.  It’s like saying 40% of people get angry.  Let’s spread the word to end the word, and say emotions and feelings.

I am feisty, as you might have guessed.  Also, I get my energy from people and I like structure.  I’m fairly opinionated and I’m used to having people to supervise.

People sometimes call me ‘too nice’.  I re-frame that to ‘very sensitive to others feelings’.

Others get thrown off by my quick anger response that I have (tried to) learn to temper, being socialized as woman for all of these 48 years.

Being slow to anger really isn’t my temperament, so the socialization hasn’t taken very well.

But it’s there.  I’m on a tear about this mental health problems phrase.  It’s not mental health problems, it’s not mental health issues, it is health.  It is issues.  It is feelings.

People who are verbal like to talk about their problems and there are lots of benefits from doing it with a professional who is trained in the field, with a natural propensity to feelings, connecting, a match for you, etc.

People who do not like to verbalize can find talk therapy super painful and usually can be fairly good at utilizing other coping mechanisms, like listening to music, creating, resting, watching a movie, exercising, or something else that doesn’t involve talking with other people. People who do not like to verbalize can also really enjoy talk therapy, because it provides a chance for them to put words to feelings in a way that they may not typically do.

Or, those same people, the verbalizers and the non-verbalizers, and those that are somewhere in between?

Some are terrible about getting their own needs met.

Hey, I’ve got an idea. I’m going to go first and you follow me.

Let’s say, we are all trying to get our needs met. Let’s say, some are better at that than others 

In Summary

We all have emotions, and currently I have a little too much time and not quite enough to do.

Rather than overwhelm my friends who are trying to work or do something else, I’ll write it down, and people who are interested can read it.

Gotta go.  Have to find some interesting pics, and harness this energy to go toward correcting my typos.

Let’s work together to come up with a new phrase for spread the word to end the word as it relates to mental health issues.  

If you have an idea, I’m certainly open to hearing it. Maybe you can think about it and tell a friend, or even just think about it.

My name is Terri, and I love to chat.


Published by terriparke

I have an MA in Community Counseling and a BS in Psychology. I like to provide mental health talk therapy, write, and consult. I'm an Indiana girl at heart, both the state and the University. My 20 something twin sons and older than 50 husband could tell you more-Happy reading!

2 thoughts on “Got a messy desk? Me too! What I Love About Clutter, and What I Dislike About the Phrase ‘Mental Health Problems’

  1. So… seems like you have an idea. Should we call them ‘mental health nerds’?? Mental health geeks? I know you’ve got some idea in there…. 😂


  2. I have enjoyed your last two offerings. I can’t imagine anyone being put off by someone else using or abusing a phrase like mental health issues…..maybe it’s a mental health issue……..jk


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