PodCast: Moving to McKinney, Making Change, and Reflecting

Today’s podcast is based on the article of a similar name about our move to Texas and our opportunities included with that.

I am excited to announce that I have office space in McKinney (Craig Ranch) Texas, and will begin seeing clients on July 8th. Hope your day is going well-and that you enjoy listening.



Moving to McKinney! Pain Free Acupuncture Clinic, Office Space, but first…… Ranch in Argyle

At about 4:30pm Central Time on June 6th we drove into McKinney, Texas; well I drove into McKinney.

I had our puppy, and my husband went directly to the AirBNB ranch, in Copper Canyon, Texas, where we would be staying for three weeks until we got possession of our newly purchased home.

Matt went to check in, meet Pam the owner, and drop off a couple of things.

After 2 days of driving, and one full hour of Oklahoma rainstorms where we met for lunch at two separate Chick Filas, we had made it to our new-to-us home in time for our final walk through. The next day, we signed the papers to purchase it.

Earlier in the week, prior to leaving Noblesville, Indiana; we took some pictures of our previous home.

Just as we were about to leave Noblesville to stay in our first hotel, Matt came through as photographer-suggester. He suggested we take a selfie at our home in Noblesville before we left.

I agreed with that suggestion, and took several pics through the home, including our view of the beautiful grass we grow so easily in Indiana.

View from the front porch

Our Noblesville home had been cleaned, all of our belongings that survived the purge had been loaded onto a truck, and we had put the final remaining items into our 2 vehicles so that we’d have clothes, some chairs, and some food/hygiene items for the coming weeks.

When we arrived in Texas for our final walk through, we walked around, and I took pics of the home with the previous owners’ belongings in it. I enjoy their decorating style, and wanted to be able to replicate a couple of things once they had their things out of it.

Wayfair Floor covering in kitchen

It was a great relief to see our home again, and then to close without incident on it on 6/7.

Even better, the ranch our realtor had connected us with in Copper Canyon, Texas, is an Air BNB that is lovely.

Sitting poolside at Sparrow Ranch

We became Texas landowners on 6/7/2019, and settled in to enjoy our stay in Copper Canyon, and to begin preparing to move into our home at the end of the month.

My childhood friends, Cara and her twin sister Sara, live in the area to which we are moving.

I have been communicating with them about re-connecting, particularly asking for help with finding a hair dresser, help with mental health office space, etc., and help finding medical/chiropractic care.

They definitely came through for me. Cara and Sara have been advising me from Texas through many of our decisions, and had told me in 2016 that they could work to connect me with people they knew. They both were true to their word and I really appreciate it.

I am excited to say that on June 18th, which also happens to be our 25th wedding anniversary, I signed on the dotted line and began renting space at the Pain Free Acupuncture Clinic in McKinney (Craig Ranch) Texas. I am writing this blog from the desk that I share with Gail, the clinical manager.

new office door
Office door, Pain Free Acupuncture Clinic

We wrap up our stay at Sparrow Ranch later this week, our 21 year old boys come over the weekend, and the furniture truck arrives late next week.

When I think about all of the anticipation and the change we have had, I think about new beginnings.

I think about my opportunity to work alongside those who help with physical pain, as I work to help from the mental health side of both emotional and physical pain. I am excited for new and old friends, new opportunities, and new beginnings.

I think about heartfelt ‘see you soons’. I think about the friendships I have in Indiana and beyond, which I will continue to have. I think about relationships I have through the work I have participated in, and I think about my close relationships with family members. I am excited to be able to continue to travel home and to accept guests into my home to continue those relationships.

I think about so many new opportunities

Now I’d like for you to think about changes that you are considering in your own life.

Think about things you like just the way they are. Think about things/people that cause you a bit of discomfort. People you may wish to reconnect with, and those you wish for a little more separation from.

As you think about changes you would like to make, or changes you have made, think about things you love, things that make you unsettled, and your plan for change

Think about ‘how can I improve what I have and love, and what can I do to make things better and sometimes harder’, at least in the short term. Think about how you can make decisions, like starting over in a new state, opening a business, drawing a picture of what you envision, or even reaching out to an old friend.

Now…think of something you can do this week, or at least in the short term.

Can you commit to it? I know I can. These changes are here, I’m excited about them, and every day is kind of like wearing a new outfit, which is something else I like to do.

Change isn’t easy….but it sure is exciting! Good luck with your commitment to change, and I’m so glad you were able to think about things you love and wish to alter in your own life.

Sunset in Grapevine

Jun 16, 2019 10:29 Leading with Compassion: Podcast Part 2, Moving from Indiana to Texas and the Predictive Index


Todays PodCast is Leading with Compassion: Moving from Indiana to Texas and the Predictive Index. Part 2 of 2

I discuss how our personality characteristics, specifically being socially driven and driven to do things by the rules, help us to perform and behave.

This podcast is based on a blog by a similar name which is posted as one article.

Hope you enjoy it!

Jun 8, 2019 05:33 leading with Compassion, podcast Part 1, graduating from Indiana and moving to Texas, and the Predictive Index


Today’s Podcast is part 1, approximately 30 minutes, about moving and the Predictive Index

Part 2 is published as well. These podcasts are based on a blog of a similar name posted just below

Happy listening!


Saying Yes!! Graduating from Indiana to Texas, and the Predictive Index

I read a blog by my friend’s daughter the other day

I’ve known her since before she was born, when her mom and I worked together. The first time I knew of her, I remember clearly.

We were at a staff meeting, and a bowl of burned popcorn was placed in front of her mom’s place at the table.

Her mom turned green rapidly.

At the time, she was an embryo of, well, I would guess 9-10 weeks gestation. It is more likely that gestational number is 7 or so. She was fairly early along in her pregnancy

I remember many stories about B while she was growing up, especially between the ages of 0-10.

Son and puppy in our yard in Indiana

Her mom and I worked together every workday for about that long.

A couple of years before her mom moved on to a different position, her aunt moved to town and began working with us. I worked with her aunt and mom for 15 years combined.

We are still friends, so the stories we told each other about parenting and life became a little more sporadic when we stopped working together officially in 2009.

B, well, she’s one of my favorites.

Which simply means: I like her a lot

She’s one of my favorite ages (early 20’s) and she recently wrote in her blog about her year of ‘saying yes‘. Saying Yes even when things make us nervous, or create anticipation, cause a little fear, or create anxiety.

Anxiety is the manifestation of anxiousness, nervousness, anticipation and excitement.

Same feeling, different manifestations.

Her 2018-2019 academic year culminated in a trip she’s about to take to South Africa.

That’s one of the things I love about 20 somethings.

They have the whole world in front of them, they get to make choices that affect their lives in ways they really don’t realize until they are older, and they are full of dreams.

We are also ‘saying yes’.

We are moving to sunshiny Dallas.

pic of view of McKinney from a window
View of our street in Texas

Being nearly 50 years old and saying yes?

I mean, being just barely over 48 and saying yes??

Well, it is still fun, great, with lots of new opportunities, with a little fear and concerns about the people ‘left behind’ going on.

I currently have custody of the grand-puppy, so he will be my co-pilot as we caravan the 14 hours of driving to Texas (more like 16). It will probably take us several more hours than that, with stops and overnights.

3.5 years ago, we made this plan.

3 years ago, my husband changed roles in his job.

He went from working inside an office from 8am-5pm in Carmel, Indiana; to roaming around a 4 state territory, which is all centralized to Dallas.

In the social service world, we call him home-based. Or we say his office is his car.

Basically, he is a home based financial planner advisor.

He’s been traveling back and forth since we decided to try this out in 2016, waiting for me to be ready to make the move to Texas while our children, who were 18 year old about to be college freshman at the time, finished up their senior year/graduation preparations

Black eyed Susans Growing In IN

His boss is Mike McGlothlin (McG) of Ash Brokerage at ashbrokerage.com

Mike is a boss who leads with compassion.

He. Leads. With….


He cares about our family as much as he cares about his individual employees. Ash is a family owned company (started and still run by Ashes). The company is based out of Ft. Wayne Indiana, and there are employees in my husband’s role all over the country.

We met Mike when Matt began working for him, for the first time out of 3, when they worked together at Jackson National (2000), then Highland Capital Brokerage ( (2010) was next, and now they have settled again together at Ash.

Highland Capital started in 2010 for us, which was fairly soon after the recent financial crisis.

Jackson National was early 2000’s, so they have been together through good times and bad.

Ash Brokerage is a hybrid of being modeled after Tesla (newest ideas, newest ways) and good old fashioned family relationships.

It was started by Jim Ash, and his children Tracy, Tim and Amy Ash still actively work. Their parents are working to hand off the company but still have a hand in things. It’s a great place to work.

Our children were about 2 when we met Mike, and they are now Juniors in college. You get the idea of how long he has cared about our family through working together with Matt.

The spouses and families of employees are as important in getting things accomplished as the employees themselves at Ash Brokerage.

Mike and the Ashes recognize this, and Ash Brokerage frequently wins awards for being the ‘best place to work’

So, Empty Nest Syndrome x3 as my boys moved to Bloomington and my husband started traveling every other week, Monday-Thursday.

Incidentally, my next door neighbor friend Christy, who is also a therapist, chose at that time to put her house on the market because they had an opportunity to live by some close friends, and it sold immediately.

At the time they moved, she was a parent with her husband to 3 boys, 2 of whom were twins and one who is older.

They ran to greet me if they were outside when I came home from work (or if I was outside at all).

My energy level is ‘high’, so children and puppies can be drawn to that.

I sit on my porch with great frequency, so if I was outside, with or without Matt, we (the children and us) hung out under their parents’ supervision. I became friends with the parents through the kids, especially the oldest son when his twin brothers were brand new babies.

My boys at that time were slightly less excited to see me since they were about 14 when they moved in next door.

I used the time in between moving and knowing we were going to move to get used to the idea of leaving a job I loved, as well as getting getting used to the idea of having physical distance between many friends and family.

My husband used that same time at the beginning of his new job/role to get used to his new role at his job, and to make sure it was a fit, which it is.

We both used that time to get more used to being apart, and not always being around each other, as well as getting used to working from home together.

We met at the ages of 20/21, so we’ve been together for a lot of our lives. I’m a titch older, FYI

IT. Was a change.

It. was. (and is).

a change.

Also, Planning a 3 year graduation from your home state to your new home state?

It has worked out just as we had planned, but it is still quite a long time.

We are moving exactly when I we wanted to move.


When we realized we needed to go ahead and move because of all of our life stressors, and our kids were going to have internships during the 2019 summer anyway, we talked about moving up our ‘move date’ to 2019 instead of 2020.

This allowed them to be wherever they wanted for their internships and determining their internship location.

They could be whereever was best for them, and we could plan for and know when we were going to move.

My my kids have finished their junior year of college, have internships and aren’t living at home this summer.

As they figure out where they will be after graduation next year, we are settling in Dallas and will be the new home base.

Exactly like I planned. The 5 months our house was on the market?

Ehhh…it’s all good.

It’s all OK now. 🙂

But this ‘saying yes‘ to moving is a big change for someone who stays in contact with pretty much most of my good friends and family I’ve made along the way from ages 0-48.

I’m one of those 2-3 friends people, meaning I have several groups of, or are friends with, groups of 2-3 of us.

I’m the middle child, so in many relationships I am the ‘middle person’. Somewhat like a middle manager, which is also a fit for me.

Many of those friendships are by text and people I rarely see in person.

I am pretty social, and chat with people-I ‘know‘ the Starbucks people, (patrons and employees) at the one I frequent the most, because I like to sit and write there.

The servers at restaurants I frequent are on a just above say hello relationship, and I have a random group of retired/work from home friends I know quite well from sitting and chatting in Starbucks while I write this blog.

My need for social interaction is fairly high, so I get it just by hanging out in coffee shops (like I’m doing now).

I hung out in a coffee shop in Noblesville as I wrote this, and I’m at a new one, HarryLu’s in McKinney, as I write and edit this again.

It’s a leap of faith.

It’s a giant


There’s a personality assessment we used at my former employeer, the Children’s Bureau, Inc, called the Predictive Index.

People taking the assessment identify words that describe themselves to determine where they fall in 4 general areas.

There’s a midline for each type, and you fall either above, on, or below the midline in each area.

Here’s a pic of my graph, with a picture of my brother’s below it:

The tool is used to help predict who is a best fit for positions.

At the Children’s Bureau, we used it as a hiring tool to help get a jump on interacting with staff, each other, and supervisors.

Shorthand, it helps indicate what motivates people.

It is a great tool to help with understanding each other.

It is not intended to be a tool to rule out potential employees, but would do a pretty good job of showing that an accounting job, sitting at a desk all day, would not be a fit for me.

However, if you add in supervising accountants and everything I do is related to managing them??

It might work, hard to say. I haven’t done it. Yet.

Once the potential person (or brother, or husband, etc) answers the descriptive questions, it helps the person interpreting the tool to understand what drives other people as we know we are not always driven by the same things.

A quick overview:

Dominance: Like to be in charge and make decisions? Your “A” is probably above the midline. The term is called Dominance, but I also think of it in terms of Authority.

People who prefer not to pick where they want to go to dinner? Their A is probably not very above midline, and they would just as soon have someone else pick where to go and have what we, in my immediate family, call ‘veto power’. I don’t care where we go, but there might be places I don’t want to go at all.

They could be someone who is more likely to lead by consensus (coming to an agreement), or just figures out a way to rule out things they really don’t want.

Someone who is farther above midline is more likely to prefer that ‘someone make a decision, preferably me’. It takes all kinds, right?? 🙂

Another tendency of those above the midline are that they tend to like being the one who came up with the idea, as opposed to those below the midline where getting credit for making decisions, or being acknowledged for their power/ability to be in control, is less important to them.

Many managers are highest A.

They like to make decisions, they like to be in charge, and it is a fit for them. Sometimes being in charge becomes more important than what is happening, so it can be a drawback as well.

My A is just below the midline. I lead what can be called ‘from the back’. I will direct as needed but do not have to be in charge. If no one is in charge, however, I will be happy to do so.

It makes me a little bit of an atypical manager.

I am what is known as a manager without a high A. I love to help my employees feel like they came up with idea. I love to staff something, like an upcoming child safety fair, and talk about the roles we all have and come up with a way to help others feel like they have a say in what they do, knowing they have to be there.

When I am managed by someone who has higher A than me, they may come to a meeting with a list of roles, here’s what you’re going to do, please be there at 9.

Some people love this quality in others, and my way of leading can make them a little crazy, or ‘cause an amount of frustration‘, as I had originally written.


Extroversion: Someone with their extroversion above the midline has what we call a ‘social driver’

Like to interact with people a lot of the time? Like to chat with people about things like haircuts, or having a new outfit, or what you did over the weekend?

That is a B above midline.

It is called Extroversion, but it is really about being driven socially.

If you interview someone who is highest B, they are fairly likely to get the job. They are able to figure out what you want from them, can probably ask you some things about what you are doing to engage you and figure out what you want from them, and you’ll feel a connection.

Sometimes, they end up in jobs they really are not a fit for because they are good at getting hired. They are good at learning what is expected of them and meeting expectations.

Someone who is below the midline in this area, or what we call a lower B, is less good at figuring out what someone wants because they are not as driven socially. They are not as motivated by it.

They may be the one who doesn’t join the group to go to lunch because they don’t like that restaurant, or who is driven by a bonus vs. being told ‘good job’.

Their social drivers are lower, so someone asking them if they got their haircut is more of an annoyance than a way to connect.

Patience: This category has a lot of similarities to extroversion, but it is more about having meaningful conversations/connections. Sort of like a picky eater’s group of foods vs. a ‘I love to eat’ group of foods.

Have a small group of friends who you are close to? Like familiarity and routine? Have the patience to sit and figure something out as you either teach or learn because you want to know it to be able to do it in the future?

The 3rd category is called Patience, which is a little bit a misnomer because I’m pretty impatient in a line, etc, but that is called “pace

FYI, I am a high C who moves at a pretty quick pace, so if you don’t move up in the line at the grocery store I might crowd you JUST a little to help you move forward.

People who have a C above the midline are also driven socially, but it is different than extroversion.

As a highest C, it is hard for me not to describe this type as ‘the one that is the right way to be that frustrates some other people’.

Ever tried to teach someone something and they say ‘hang on, I’m trying to understand what you’re saying. Let me do that myself so I can understand‘.

Then, once they have driven you almost to the point of madness, they know how to do it well because they took the time to learn it.

For me, this area comes with a lot of trial and error-because I just try, then go back and edit/fix/work through the kinks. If you’d like to see, go back to my earliest blogs, take a look, and you’ll probably get an idea from the ones I haven’t fixed the typos on yet 🙂

It is being social, but wanting familiarity. It liking routine and consistency, and then thriving in that environment. People who are highest C typically do much worse under pressure, so they can be difficult to supervise if the person who is supervising them needs deadlines and pressure to perform.

People who are below the midline in this category are not driven socially and people who do not have this trait might be someone who might say ‘can you unravel this necklace for me? I don’t have the patience’.

Can you figure out how to do this and tell me, I am getting too frustrated. The reason it is called patience is because it is more about having the quality to be methodical, like routine, etc. If you don’t have it, it is the absence of that.

At Chiro

Formality: The final category, called ‘D’, is about formality. It is an adherence to rules and the way things are ‘supposed to be’.

Love to be told what the rules are and follow them? Love to be told what is expected of you and you complete the task? Get frustrated when people do not follow the recommended rules even if they are not essential?

I call the people with this characteristic rule followers, and they are usually great with details, if they take the time to look at them. They can be ‘can’t see the forest for the trees people‘, as opposed to can’t see the trees for the forest people. . They are people who are great at going what I call ‘left to right’. They are usually pretty systematic.

People below the midline in this area are much less married to rules.

They may think ‘I know that we aren’t supposed to do it this way, so just let me try’. I am below the midline on this, but just barely. Some things I have tried are: cooking without baking soda/baking powder, because I get them mixed up and didn’t have them on hand (important rule). Not pre-heating the oven ( how much can it really matter?? I’m over that one. It kind of matters for consistency)

Someone above the midline in this area has feelings like ‘but that’s not what the rules say-the process is supposed to go like this’. One of my favorite employees with this characteristic said, frustratedly, at a meeting-‘all of this is in the manual?? Why didn’t they just read it??

My friend and co-worker said at the end of the meeting ‘who reads manuals??’ She did, and thank goodness for it. She knew her job front to back, right to left, upside and down.


People who have highest A and highest D (my brother and husband included here) have what is called the A-D conflict. I want to do it my way, I want to be in charge, but I want it to be right.

It is important to look at which is higher. In my brother’s case, high D is higher than his A, so being correct is more important than being in charge when it ultimately comes down to it.

Boy can that be stressful!

Wthout social drivers, people being upset or having feelings about which way to do it is preferred isn’t a motivator.

Conversely, someone who is socially driven, or who succeeds by learning what is expected, communicating, connecting, and having relationship?

They are going to be socially driven whether they want to be or not.

Some might call them ‘say yes’ people.

I have a friend who lives in a different state who took the PI. This person is highest B and highest C. She cannot help but know what people want socially, because she feels it. She doesn’t have to act on it, but she is driven to succeed based on social interactions because that is what drives her.

I am socially driven, but also really like to succeed and do well. I also like variety, and am not married to rules.

For someone who is higher A and C, they are driven to be in charge, they like routine, and being in charge is the most important thing of all OR the routine is the most important thing of all depending on which is higher.

If A is higher, than the preference to have things be their idea, or to come up with things and delegate, is more important than the social driver of being with other people or being driven by that.

As you may notice in the above picture, I am on the midline on extroversion (B) and formality (D). l am one to two clicks above the mean on Patience (C), and I am just barely below the mean on Dominance (A).

I like to say I have no personality. They call people like me, the ones with no personality, the CIA types. We tend to blend depending on the situation.


Other Indicators

One of the other indicators on the tool is looking at how far apart the graph is. You know those friends who just have giant personalities and if they are there you can always remember them?

Now think about people you know who can slip into a room unnoticed, can join a group without affecting it as much. The difference is the variation from the midline, or how wide the graph is, which how strong their answer is in certain areas.

For me, I have a familiar face, people don’t remember me, and I am fine with that. I have what one of my friends/co-workers called ‘a small ripple’.

My husband, and friends I tend to choose to be around, typically have a much bigger ripple, and frequently have very different letters than I do.

My husband is highest A and D. My brother is highest D and A. Both of them like to be in charge, love to do things right, and sometimes have a conflict about whether to do things their way or the way he’s supposed to.

To which I have been known to say ‘who cares?? Does it matter?

Let me tell you, to them it does.

My conflict is-do I have to do this the right way, or can i do it my way without consequence? We’re a fit.

Pictured above are our grand-pup Mosby and his first friend, Smokey. Mosby is being socialized to be around other dogs, since he has spent most of his life around people very and he has very rarely had a conflict with another dog

And here we go to Texas.

Anybody want to join us??

It’s a beautiful city and all kinds of people are moving there.

Luckily my childhood friends Cara and Sara live here.

I’m editing from a restaurant in Flower Mound, so we’ll get to hang out more, particularly since Cara is about 5 minutes away from our real house in a city of about 150,000.

If you feel like moving to McKinney, Texas, let me know. I’ll see you there!

I have now taken my low ripple, CIA self to Texas, learning a new city, and figuring out how I will use my therapy license while maintaining relationships with my friends and family.

When I think about changes I have made in the past, I have also anticipated them with excitement. I have enjoyed every stage of my life so far, including my kids growing up on me and moving to college, so……..here we go!!

*how long until I start saying y’all?? I mean, it’s everywhere.

So….here we go!

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